Congratulations,nobody knows you! Let’s celebrate with a cake that says overlooked in blue buttercream icing. 

Alright so here’s the deal, it’s not that no one gives a damn, it’s just that you place too much importance on outside validation. I get it, no one wants to be overlooked— especially  when you feel your essence has so much to offer and you’re presented with silence or faceless expressions. It hurts. Like more than when your pinky toe hits that table in your living room ( that actually really hurts!) 

How about we get into some ways that you can use being overlooked as a blessing to your advantage and not a curse as your final fate.

Congratulations, Nobody Knows You

We live in a world where everything has to be instant. Instant attention, instant results, instant gratification. It’s almost as if we bank in on microwavable timelines that taste saltier than a frozen meal. When no one knows you, you are free to fuck up a few times or maybe a hundred times without thousands of judgemental eyes on you. Could you imagine learning how to drive for the first time and someone yells boo everytime you make the wrong turn or forget to put your blinker on? That sounds like a game show where you already lost before you started.Take being overlooked as a way to keep moving freely without any expectations. Too many outside opinions start to feel like spilled milk when you don’t give yourself grace, and instead give yourself grief. Nobody knowing you gives you the upper hand on performing without external noise. Think of it like going through the motions in a hoodie and headphones until it’s time to come out of hermit mode.  

Sometimes the show doesn’t start when there’s a crowd. It starts when you treat being overlooked as a canvas for pushing forward. 

Say It With Me—Refinement, Not Failure 

Despite what the world wants you to think, you didn’t fail. You’re just being recalibrated to sync with outcomes that serve you. Imagine if you achieved something all while operating from the frequency of being an a half-ass amateur? You’d probably lose what you had before you can even touch it. You don’t have to internalize silence just because it’s louder than an applause. It’s time to get comfy with the idea that your moment of being hidden in plain sight, is a moment to refine yourself. Think of it like a test. You swear you’re ready until you’re handed a scantron (hot damn I’m old!) and suddenly everything you knew is non-existent. Use that time to hone your craft, and allow yourself to be a vessel for any incoming light bulb moments that refine you. For years I thought releasing music with no traction was a failure but I was actually being redirected. I used that time to learn myself, and navigate through the quiet phases without pressure. Don’t treat your quiet phases like paparazzi in 2003. Treat them like silent powers that give the green light on when the iron is hot to strike.

Eff The Past And The Future. Focus On Today

Why worry about a past that you can’t change and a future that isn’t even set in stone? This isn’t an episode of Futurama so you can relax your shoulders on trying to make B.S. spin. Treat today like being in a boot camp of invisibility so that you can train yourself on how to stay grounded in your path. It may be awhile before recognition is tied to your name, but that’s ok. You need to use that time to know yourself better than a married couple at game night. Or the person who swears they know their car when fuel is getting low. If you came into prominence tomorrow, would you jump when someone says not yet—or would you stay solid when someone says almost. Your most important task is your present. That liminal cocoon space is only for your higher good so that when it’s time to blossom, you’d do it from ease rather than pressure.

You Aren’t Overlooked, You’re Protected

When outsiders know too much, they’re quick to taint it with projections that seem to cast a shadow of doubt. When everyone is oblivious, it gives you time to know what you’re capable of rather than what you haven’t achieved yet. Although we all love being the main character, your life isn’t some E tv reality show subject to criticism. Potential is the baddest motherfucker to exist—if you learn to tap into it wisely. 

You were never overlooked. You just haven’t found the audience that juxtaposes with your reality. 

Don’t worry about tomorrow like it owes you rent money. Let it go. And breathe. 

Oh and unclench your jaw.

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